I was given some constructive criticism recently. Specifically on communication.
Interesting concept. It could come across as constructive or destructive. I have had to really think on this a lot after receiving mine. I was told in one way or less that I need to use my 'big girl voice' when talking to others. Did it shock me? probably. Was it the best way to phrase it? no. Did I need to hear it? yes.
Winston Churchill once said:
'Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.'
I do need to heed these words: to speak up. I have had this problem with precariousness. Stemming back to my early years. When I get nervous, scared & possibly intimidated; I start to talk in this small voice. Why? Insecurities. Being unsure of myself. Self-doubt. Forgetting who I am. The list goes on. The criticism did make me realize that this is an unhealthy thing to do. It hurt to hear, but I needed to hear it.
Having courage. Speaking up. Listening.
Being sure of who I am in the most difficult of circumstances.
Easier said than done.
'Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.'