speak up.

I was given some constructive criticism recently. Specifically on communication.

Criticism.

Interesting concept. It could come across as constructive or destructive. I have had to really think on this a lot after receiving mine. I was told in one way or less that I need to use my 'big girl voice' when talking to others. Did it shock me? probably. Was it the best way to phrase it? no. Did I need to hear it? yes.

Winston Churchill once said:
              'Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the                                                    human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.'

So true.

I do need to heed these words: to speak up. I have had this problem with precariousness. Stemming back to my early years. When I get nervous, scared & possibly intimidated; I start to talk in this small voice. Why? Insecurities. Being unsure of myself. Self-doubt. Forgetting who I am. The list goes on. The criticism did make me realize that this is an unhealthy thing to do. It hurt to hear, but I needed to hear it.

Next steps? 

Having courage. Speaking up. Listening. 

Being sure of who I am in the most difficult of circumstances.

Easier said than done.


  'Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.'
                                                                                                                       -Winston Churchill